I’ve recently been asked if my website/blog was being updated, and the answer was a very sad, but honest, NO. I haven’t kept up on it. I assure you, I’ve had several very good reasons why. I’ve decided that while I have two good days left before my life changes, I may as well update my loyal followers (friends and family, that include you guys too!) on what’s been going on up til this point. I may choose to go in depth on certain topics later on down the road, but seeing it’s almost 1am, and I’m running on a short fuse, I will provide you with an abridged version of 2007 at this time. Besides, the year isn’t over just yet!
After losing our first baby in December 2006, Josh and I thought we’d wait a bit before trying for another child. It was apparent someone else was a little more eager for us to conceive, and on April 25, we found out we were 5 weeks pregnant. It appears I conceived sometime in March, just 3 months after I miscarried. I know I wanted to be pregnant, however, I wasn’t intending to be pregnant for almost 16 months straight! Nonetheless, we were excited.
In April, Josh’s sister Anna was diagnosed with a mass in her chest. We will later find out it was cancer. Lymphoma to be exact.
In May, I was having terrible problems with my back. I’ve suffered terrible back pain for years, and have always attributed it with my weight problems. After losing 80+ lbs on Weight Watchers just a year before, all seemed well, but I obviously did something wrong because I was in agonizing pain and would stay in bed for days just to re-injure it doing something stupid, like walking, driving, or working. After seeing an orthopedic surgeon, I was told I had two herniated disks in my lower back; but nothing could be done because I was pregnant. I would just have to deal with it. The solution: if it goes out, stay in bed.
This was the scenario for all of May, June, and the beginning of July. On July 5, the disks finally gave way and ruptured. I was taken to Long Beach Memorial Medical Center via paramedics. After 8 hours in the ER, I was admitted….and I never left. After 3 days in the hospital, I had an MRI which confirmed I had indeed ruptured my L5, S1 disk, and had another herniation. By this point, I was four months pregnant, and all I could do was lay in the hospital and be on a pain management schedule.
After 3 weeks in the hospital, I started experiencing neurological deterioration, that was going to be permanent if something drastic wasn’t done. The fragments of disk that ruptured caused several nerves in my back to be compromised. My left leg wasn’t functioning correctly, and I was told I would expect to lose bowel and bladder function next if I wasn’t operated on. It would be permanent.
On July 26, approximately 20 weeks pregnant, I underwent a 3 hour laminectomy and diskectomy to repair my back. The ruputured disk was removed, part of my sacrum was removed, and channels were cut to allow for additional nerve swelling in the future. The surgery was a success, and the baby made it though everything just fine. I was released from the hospital on July 30, 2007.
I spent the month of August at home, just trying to get back to a somewhat “normal” life. I underwent physical therapy here at home, and had friends and family help out. The pregnancy was going fine, and the baby was thriving. For our five year wedding anniversary, Josh took me to King’s Fish House here in Long Beach for dinner. I was craving lobster in the hospital so badly! Lobster I received! It was nice as we had our wedding reception there five years before, and it brought back fond memories.
Josh and I spent a few weekends taking day trips in the car just to get out for a little while. I had spent so much time cooped up inside, that I wanted to do something to get out for a bit. We took a glorious drive up the coast and ended up in Ventura one Sunday afternoon just so I could eat lobster on the beach!
In the meantime, Josh’s sister, Anna, was in Germany undergoing chemotherapy treatments at Landstuhl AFB. Diane, Josh’s mother, was there with Anna for support and general care so she didn’t have to be alone. We spoke to them every week, and things were looking good. She was a fighter, and we knew she’d kick the cancer in the butt! She was feeling pretty good though, and surprised us all when she said she’d be coming to the US for her brother’s wedding at the end of the month!
On August 24, Josh and I had an ultrasound to find out the sex of the baby, and to do a full anatomical scan to ensure the surgery didn’t have any negative impact on the baby’s development. We were delighted to find out not only was the baby fine, but that we were having a BOY!!! I was so happy, I nearly fell off the table. The best part was that all of Josh’s family was here for Ben and Vanessa’s wedding (Josh’s brother and his fiance), so we were able to share the news with everyone in person.
On August 26, Ben and Vanessa were married on the yacht “ICON” in Newport Harbor. It was a wonderful and happy day. Best of all, Anna made it from Europe, along with her husband Wayne, and son, Dorian. All of the family was together.
September and October flew by, and so did my pregnancy. I was coming into the home stretch and getting very uncomfortable. Josh and I went to see Wicked at the Pantages Theater on Halloween and had a great night. We hadn’t been able to get out too much this past year because of my back problems, so every little “date” we had was great!
November rolled around and things were still looking good. We received some AWESOME news from Anna, that her cancer was GONE and she was in remission! She was scheduled to come to the US for radiation treatment, but she no longer has to do it. She’s cancer free! Josh and I spent November getting the baby’s room ready and preparing for his arrival, and we also attended our prenatal and Lamaze classes at Memorial Hospital. We had decided early on that we weren’t going to host Thanksgiving this year, so we decided as a family to eat out! What a great idea that was! We booked reservations at Parker’s Lighthouse down at Shoreline Village here in Long Beach, and had the most wonderful Thanksgiving dinner…down to the pumpkin pie! And what better way to enjoy your day than with an awesome view of the Queen Mary and the sunset right out the window? The day was perfect as far as I was concerned…someone else cooked the meal AND there were no dirty dishes! My mom and dad spent Thanksgiving in Missouri with my sister and her husband, so it was just the Legbandt’s this year.
A few weeks prior to the Thanksgiving feast, Josh’s mom slipped off the curb in front of her house, and broke her foot. She was put in a cast, and told to stay off of work for 6 weeks to let it heal. Easier said than done. She just went back to the doctor last week for more x-rays, and she was told she’ll be off work til after the first of the year. Now, you’d think it’s no big deal, but she lives alone, and can’t drive, and I’m barely able to move these days, so for me to take care of her is a huge thing, and she can’t take care of me very well, so we are both the “crippled sisters” at this point. Needless to say, Josh has been under alot of stress.
Which leads me to the present. Today is December 10 (well, I guess now the 11th). I am currently 39 weeks pregnant. The baby is due December 17….well, he was due the 17th. He’s now scheduled to be delivered this Thursday, December 13, 2007 at 12:30pm. Honest to God I did not want to have a C-section. In fact, my intentions were to try to have this baby naturally, with no pain medication! I had been doped up so long over the summer because of my back, I felt I owed it to my son to try to do this as natural as possible. I’ve gone almost this entire pregnancy with no mention of a C-section, until two weeks ago. My doctor discovered that not only was I NOT dialating at all, the baby wasn’t dropping either. I was bummed. I went in last week, same scenario. Nothing. I asked him if he could please induce me, and he stated he would, but I needed to dialate at least a tiny bit so the medication would work. I saw him last Thursday, and he informed me that my chances of delivering my baby naturally were slim to none. I apparently am carrying a linebacker in my uterus…he’s a big one! My back has been in such bad shape these last few weeks that I can’t imagine I would even make it though the pushing part. I’ve had to use my walker, my pelvis hurts, and some days, I can barely walk. I’ve gained 34 lbs throughout the pregnancy, but I may as well have put on 340! I am so unbearably uncomfortable, that I’ve come to the conclusion, it’s TIME! I called my doctor today, went in to see him, and we both agreed that it’s time. So, Thursday at 12:30pm it is. I HATE the fact I’m scheduling the birth of my child, but at this point, I’m about to rip him from my loins if he doesn’t come out, so I’m allowing my doctor to do it in a nice, sterile environment for me.
Thus, the comment: “I have two good days before my life changes”.
On top of everything else, Josh seems to have come down with some sort of gnarly cold/flu thing. We have both received flu shots this year, so I’m assuming it’s just a really bad cold. I’m hoping that’s all it is, as he won’t be able to be in the OR if he’s sick on Thursday! My mom will be arriving with her 2 cats in tow from Utah tomorrow night, so we’re okay in that department. I’ve been telling my son to hold out til my mom arrived so she didn’t miss the birth of her first grandchild. However, I’ve been begging him to come out now, and he doesn’t want to. He’s not even born, and already, I can’t win!
So Merry Christmas, Happy Hanukkah, and all that good stuff! We’re finally getting our baby! Yay! This year has been hell, but it’s going to have a wonderful ending, and we’re looking forward to 2008, and spending it with our son, Daniel Harrison Legbandt.
I will TRY to keep this updated as much as possible, as I am sure I will have much to share!
December 11th, 2007